Tampa Bay Coalition
Op~Ed
by R. Zeke Fread
April 30, 2002
 
Not a Homo Bashing Catholic's, A Catholic Homo Ashamed & Angry
 
The sexual abuse crisis or scandal, that has engulfed the Roman Catholic church and it's leadership, has effected me and my family very personally. Although, the Catholic church won't embrace me or my sexual orientation, I have not abandoned my beliefs or faith as a Catholic. So, I'm not a homo bashing Catholic's,
I am a Catholic homo who is very ashamed and somewhat angry with my spiritual leaders handling of sexual abuse of our young faithful.
 
The Roman Catholic church leadership's failure to address sexual abuse by priests and the religious on the innocent young faithful, was an abomination of all they and we hold as holly. Because this abuse continued almost unabated for decades, the number of those who could have been prevented from becoming victims, will never be known. And only now, are the number of those who were victims becoming known. Tragically though, as more victims gain the courage to come forward, the number of victims keeps rising. But, with all the could a, should a and would ax's, that were surely discussed at the recent sexual abuse summit held at the Vatican. Nothing will lesson the pain and suffering of or decease the numbers of victims. We are also learning that the Roman Catholic church leadership's policy of handling alleged, suspected or confirmed acts of sexual abuse, protected the sexual abuser and not the sexually abused. That policy being, to cover up the abuse, secretly relocate the molesters and pedophiles to other church parishes, not to closely monitor the abusers, not to assign the abusers to positions that would severely limit the abusers access to innocent children, not to respond to allegations of sexual abuse by suspending abusers, not to immediately remove abusers when sexual abuse was confirmed or admitted. It should be obvious to all who attended the Vatican summit, what the devastating results that decades unabated sexual abuse by priests and religious has caused. It was time for the Roman Catholic leadership, to accept responsibility for decisions made in the past, take the heat for them and move to take immediate steps toward a zero tolerance policy on sexual abuse of the faithful young. This would have been a big step toward fulfilling their obligation to the Catholic community. And offer some assurance that their children would be protected from becoming future victims of inappropriate physical contact and sexual abuse by priests and the religious. But, once again an opportunity was missed by the church leadership to do this. Their statements of heartfelt grieving for the victims and their families by the leadership, were little consolation when followed with a, "But". "We cannot forget the power of Christian conversion, that radical decision to turn away from sin and back to God, which reaches to the depths of a person's soul and can work extraordinary change". The priests and religious sexual abusers of the young faithful, have had decades to turn away from sin and back to God. And work toward making that extraordinary change. As did the church leadership in assisting, guiding and or forcing the abusers to do so. Instead, it sounds more as though the church leadership's concerns are with protecting the abusers, not the abused. As
a Catholic and one who is grieving for the abused young faithful victims and their families. I am ashamed our spiritual leaders of the Roman Catholic faith, who has forsaken them and our Lord God's, word, teachings and commandments
 
It is inconceivable and blatant hypocrisy in my opinion, that the Roman Catholic church would condemn those whose only sin, as they see it, is to be homosexual (gay people). Who are always in the forefront of those who fight to deny gay people equality in basic human rights, legislation or laws that would protect gay people from discrimination. Actively participate, financially support, and or help to organize community groups in efforts to rescind existing laws or ordinance that offer gay people equality of rights and protection from discrimination. To profess to have dedicated their lives and demand all other should, to the commandments, word and the teachings of our Lord, God. And yet, the Roman Catholic church leadership has by their silence and actions, condoned and allowed their clergy to commit, what is the most heinous and mortal sins in the eyes of  God, for decades. What remains most upsetting about how church leaders handled admitted, confirmed and even the allegations of acts of sexual abuse by priests and the religious. Is that, church's leader have refused to accept full responsibility for the extreme pain, suffering and emotional distress caused to the victims and their families. I find the church's leadership's attempt to deflect blame from Catholic priest child molesters and pedophiles is to scapegoat homosexuals, to be despicable the. Church officials have blamed the sexual abuse crisis on only gay priests. Insinuating that none of the allegations of sexual abuse involved heterosexual priests, goes against results from most research studies on pedophilia. Which finds most adult to child sexual abuse or molestation is committed by heterosexual, not homosexual. They have claimed that a homosexual atmosphere is so prevalent though out the priesthood, that heterosexual, think twice about becoming priests. That the church leadership is undergoing a constant struggle to make sure that the Catholic  priesthood is not dominated by homosexuals. To make claims that homosexuality and homosexuals priests are the cause of this sexual abuse, is extremely offensive to gay people and a clear distortion of the truth. The reason sexual abuse of the young faithful by priests continued on for decades, was church leaders did little to nothing to stop
it.  
 
I do have great trust, faith and the utmost respect in our Pope, John Paul II .I do not doubt for a moment, our Papal Father is deeply grieved by the suffering and scandal, the priests and religious have caused to the young. Or that his expression of a profound sense of solidarity and concern, to the victims and their families,
is sincere and it comes from his heart. I pray our Papal Father will do today, what should have been done decades ago. That being, protect our innocent young faithful from becoming victims of any and all types of
inappropriate physical contact and sexual abuse by priests and the religious. To adopt a strict policy of
zero tolerance of inappropriate physical contact and sexual abuse. As to allegations of alleged abuse,
be fair and just to both accuser and accused. But, to always air on the side of protecting the young faithful
as being of the utmost importance, when there are allegations and or suspicion of possible sexual abuse.
We can not go back and change what has been done, only do everything possible to prevent ever repeating mistakes that allowed these criminal and mortally sinful abuse of the young faithful.
 
Peace Be With You!
 
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